Have you heard this pathetic line during a breakup? “I really love you/like you but we can’t be together anymore. But you are going to make someone a wonderful wife.” Like this statement is some parting gift that will soothe the wound of embarrassment and loss planted into your breaking heart.

I’m a hopeless romantic. So I used to believe this hopeless crock of Sugar-Honey-Iced-Tea running loosely from the mouths of my former boyfriends. Now that my husband has helped me to heal my broken heart, 1 million times over, I can see the meaning of these words clearly.

Ex-boyfriend. Ex-lover.

Ex-jumpoff. Ex-coworker.

Ex-enemy. Ex-friend.

Ex-buddy. Ex-husband.

Are you constantly thinking about your Exes? Wondering if they’re thinking about you? Hate to burst your perfect bubble, but they’re not.

I assure you that the dreamy reunion you’re hoping to revisit won’t be pleasant. I think of all of my Exes as rocket fuel - particularly the bad ones. They’re the indispensable power source required to launch you into the stratosphere of success, but should never be used again when considering a safe and secure landing.